10 Obvious Signs That YOU Have
The Desires To Avoid Certain
'Outcomes' Within Social Situations...
Desires Which Are The
Causes of Social Anxiety
Your desires to avoid certain 'outcomes'
within social situations, ARE undoubtedly the causes of
anxiety. I explained this very clearly in my main article
about the Cause of Social Anxiety Disorder.
With that cause fully established already,
you may be curious to know whether or not YOU specifically have the
desire to avoid certain outcomes in social situations. The purpose of
this article is to show you that you DO have that desire to avoid.
going to do is show you some
behaviours that you use towards social situations...
The nature of these
behaviours will make it obvious that you have the desire to avoid
certain outcomes within social situations – because if you didn't have
the desire to avoid certain outcomes, then you wouldn't use the
behaviours in the first place.
Given that I don't know you,
how can I possibly recognize
that you behave in certain ways?
Because I know that people who suffer
social anxiety (which I assume you do) ALL behave in these particular
ways. So if you recognize these behaviours in yourself, it will become
clear that they have a lot to do with the causes of social anxiety. Why
will this become so clear?
Because the only way I could possibly know
that you use the behaviours is due to
my assumption that you suffer from social anxiety.
Essentially, I know that you suffer social
anxiety, and because of that, I can tell you some ways that you behave.
From this, you will recognize that the behaviours have a lot to do with
the causes of social anxiety in you, because the only piece of
information I know about you, is that you suffer SA!
the list of
behaviours that you use towards social situations.
You probably don't
use all of these behaviours, but even if you only use some of them, my
still be proven – that there are clearly some outcomes in social
situations that you desire to avoid.
10 avoidant behaviours
(some of which are used by
You decide to stay completely out of
social situations. E.g. Staying at home and coming up with excuses for
why you had to.
You time your actions to coincide with
people not being around. E.g. You go grab a snack from the kitchen when
you can hear that there's nobody there.
You alter your physical location to
minimize the chance of a social situation. E.g. You ‘hug’ the wall in a
bar so that there's less chance people will recognize and then talk to
You stay quiet in social situations to
lessen the amount of conversation you have to get into.
You try to keep the conversation away from
certain topics that you're not comfortable talking about.
You 'stick' to the people you're already
comfortable with, in social situations. E.g. At a family gathering, you
stay very close to the people you live with, and avoid everyone else if
You get out of social situations as soon
as doing so becomes acceptable or possible. E.g. Rushing out of class
as soon as the class is dismissed.
You are either overly nice to people, or
overly spiteful. E.g. You agree with people even when your opinion
differs their opinion (overly nice). Or, you respond with aggression
when someone interacts with you (overly spiteful). Being overly nice or
spiteful enables you to keep people ‘off your back’ (allows you to
You are exceptionally careful not to make
mistakes around people. E.g. You take obsessive care not to knock
things over when people are around. This allows you to avoid catching
You avoid eye contact
If you use any of those behaviours, then
it's clear that you have the desire to avoid certain outcomes within
social situations. Why is that SO clear?
Because if there were NO outcomes that you
have the desire to avoid within social situations, then you'd have NO
reason to use those avoidant behaviours. We know this because the only
reason that you might want to use those avoidant behaviours, is to
prevent (avoid) a certain
outcome from happening in a social situation.
Now that you understand that your desires
to avoid certain outcomes within social situations are the causes of
social anxiety, you may also want to know WHY the desire to avoid
actually triggers social anxiety.
If you click the heading above, I will
explain the theory behind this in easy-to-understand terms.
What is it about you, that gives you this
desire to avoid certain outcomes within social situations?
that question is crucial because
it will bring us closer to knowing how to STOP your desire to
avoid...the very desire that
triggers the social anxiety.
That desire to avoid must of course be
stopped because doing so will prevent social anxiety from triggering.
If you click the headline above, I'll
quickly and simply
explain why YOU have the desire to avoid certain outcomes within social
Your Desires To Avoid Certain Outcomes
In Social Situations, ARE The Causes
of Your Social Anxiety.
Can This Knowledge Help Us To
Actually SOLVE Your Social Anxiety?
Yes. All the ideas that I have revealed to you within my
articles about the causes of social anxiety, helped me to work out
exactly what the solution to social anxiety is...
Click the link in this
sentence to go to a different article on this site, where I'll begin to
you through the process of overcoming social anxiety.
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