About Site Owner (Sam)
I'm Sam Davis, a fully
anxiety sufferer on a mission to help others achieve the same
liberating social transformation that I've encountered.
is the base from
which I can guide you through the process of overcoming Social Anxiety
Disorder. When I was 21 I committed to figuring out how to
that, by myself. I felt that I had to take matters into my own hands
because all the advice that I could find in books and online was
It took me 3 years of trial and error, plus
a tonne of self-examination, to find a definitive solution...a formula
for which I can proudly say, “If you use this, you will solve your own
I spent several months applying the
solution to my own life to the point that I successfully solved my
social anxiety. I became socially comfortable enough that I am now able
to enjoy a fulfilling social life. You having found my website, I
make sure that the same happens for you.
I'm not a qualified psychologist or doctor.
This means that anything that I claim to be true cannot be backed up by
science, but instead by sound reasoning and often times, evidence from
YOUR life. If I say something is true, and happenings from your own
life back up my point, surely that's good enough?
In my opinion, I'm in a better position to
help you overcome your social anxiety than most qualified professionals
are. This is because they haven't been through social anxiety and come
out the other side of it unscathed. They don't have the experience of
having recognized, in themselves, exactly what it has taken to overcome
social anxiety. I do have that experience and I'm looking forward to
sharing it with you...
My social anxiety story:
From reclusive to socially
It all began when I was 14. I started to
feel very uncomfortable around other people at school. I'll spare the
explanation of what my anxiety felt like, because I'm sure you know
what it's like as well as I do.
a confusing time for me because I
had absolutely no idea that what I was going through is called
“anxiety”. I would imagine that the situation was the same for
you...when social anxiety first affected you, I guess you didn't
actually know that it is called “social anxiety”.
My SA got worse over time, and it got to a
point in severity where I started to avoid social situations in a bid
to prevent anxiety from happening. I would systematically go to quiet
places at lunch time and stay home on weekends, thus weakening the
already few social connections that I had.
Once I'd made a habit of avoiding social
situations, I was isolated from people my age. Sure, I was surrounded
by them at school, but I had no rapport with anyone. I'm sure you know
what it feels like to be surrounded by people, yet still feel
I socialized with my parents at home, but
that's because they were the only people I was comfortable talking to –
and I wasn't always comfortable with them either. The thing is, we
humans need to connect with people our age...people who are interested
in the same things we are, and people who are at a similar stage and in
a similar situation in life that we are in. I didn't have any
connections like that, so I felt lonely.
I'm sure you're aware that there's a strong
link between loneliness and depression. I was never officially
diagnosed, but I know in my gut that I became depressed.
When I was 15 I went to see my local doctor
about my social anxiety. Remember, at this stage I still didn't know
that what I had was called social anxiety, so all I could really do was
describe my symptoms to the doctor. This is the point at which I found
out that what I was suffering from is called Social Anxiety. After that
doctor visit I did several weeks of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, but
it didn't help to reduce my SA.
about 6 years I lived reclusively. At
different times during those 6 years, I either worked, went to school,
or to university – but the same pattern remained throughout...I always
went about my daily activities in ways that enabled me to avoid
communicating with people. I developed a few friends during those
years, but I didn't see them that much – and I almost never had any
kind of interaction with women.
For all that time, my anxiety was potent
and it affected every social situation I found myself in. I hated it
when people came to our house to visit other members of my family. I
would usually go upstairs until the visitors had left.
Eventually I committed to
a solution to social anxiety
At 21 years old I reached the end of my
tether. I was sick of social anxiety and the non-existent social life
that it encouraged me to tolerate. I made a pact to myself that I would
figure out how to solve social anxiety. I did this because all the
advice I had read in books and programs didn't help. Nobody had found a
decent solution to social anxiety, so it was up to somebody to step
forwards and figure a solution out...
I realized that as a sufferer of SA, I was
as entitled to figure out a solution as any doctor or psychologist ever
could be. This is because I could use myself to test different theories
out, and if they worked on me then I would know what the solution to SA
is. I decided that if it was the last thing I ever do, I would find a
solution to social anxiety that would work for me and for other people
3 years trying to figure out a way
to solve social anxiety. I experimented with many theories. In the end,
it was examination of my own thoughts, desires and actions that led me
to the true formula.
As soon as I could see that I knew what it
would take to solve SA for any person, I then had to apply the solution
to my own life. This would hit 2 birds with one stone...it would prove
to me that I had successfully found the proper solution, and it would
also solve my own social anxiety.
The formula I came up with implied that for
me personally, it would be beneficial if I moved to a new location. I
wasn't interested in improving my life in my local area. I wanted to go
further afield. For reasons that would take me longer to explain than I
could reasonably expect your attention span to last for, I made the
move from The UK to South-East-Asia.
I successfully applied
the solution to
into my own life
Once I had found an apartment in my new
City, I implemented the solution to social anxiety into my life. It
took several months before I became able to truly say “Social anxiety
now affects me in such small amounts that it is barely worth
Upon recognizing that my solution works, I
spent many months turning it into a written Step-by-Step guide that, if
interested, you will find your way to whilst reading this website.
Having first shown an interest in self-help/personal development aged
16, I can say that to have created such material myself has been an
absolute pleasure. Doing such work is without a doubt my passion and
even something that I consider to be a part of my 'purpose in life'.
brings us to today. I am socially
comfortable almost all of the time, and I have a fulfilling social life
that, not too long ago, I would never have even dreamed was possible. I
have some amazing people in my life and we have a lot of fun together.
It's astonishing how much you can change your life for the better if
you really want to.
It might seem impossible from the position
you find yourself in now, but you CAN have the same awesome social
results that I am having. The person that you see yourself as, and the
activities that your life consists of right now...these things are NOT
burdensome. Instead, they are a base from which you can build. They are
a platform from which to kick-start your own social transformation.
My website here can help you to solve your
social anxiety. I have years and years of experience with social
anxiety, and most crucially, personal experience of getting over it. I
recognize exactly what I did to solve it, and I feel that it is 'my
calling' to help you to grow socially in the same ways that I have
Where to go from here...
Have you seen my article What Is Social
Anxiety, yet? Even if you know what SA is, I think
intrigued by my explanation of it. If you've only recently arrived at
SocialAnxietySolved.com, I heavily recommend you to read that article
If you've seen the article I mentioned
above, instead go take a look at my explanation of THE Cause of Social
Anxiety Disorder. Again, I think you'll find it interesting,
all, if you want to solve your social anxiety, it's crucial that you
understand what causes it.
You've read both of the above articles
already? Let's not beat around the bush. My article on Overcoming
Social Anxiety should be your priority right now.
Seen All of The Above?
Look No Further Than My Guide To
Becoming Socially Comfortable
Resulting from my story of social
transformation that you read
above, I have been able to create The Social Anxiety Solved System. It
is a Step-by-Step walkthrough for building in yourself the social
comfort that leaves the people you already know shocked at your new
socially relaxed nature.
out more about Social Anxiety Solved and how it
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